Money.!!!

Money...........

Money.................

In a rich man's world..!!!

Why can't it be....

Money Money Money

In Ken's world.??????????????????

Damn It.!

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In your heart there are people like....? ???

You can fall in love before, you may also like each other,
However, for any reason you can not be together?
Maybe he's/she’s loyalty to friends, can not catch you.
In order to consider the views of family members as possible, you are not together.

Maybe go abroad to study, he/she does not want you to wait.
Perhaps you are confused, do not know how to appreciate one another.
Perhaps you met late, you have other people around.
Maybe you come back late, others no longer wait.
Maybe you understand each other in the heart of each, and the delay line can not be retrieved.

But even if you are not together, you still maintain a friend relationship.
But you know my heart, this person, you are more than friends, but also a concern.
Perfectly justified, if not holding hands with groceries,
You can still make profits become friends.
He's/She’s like, you will help him/her catch up verbally,
My heart is not very clear you do not really want to catch it.

He/She was having trouble, you will do your best to help him/her, do not mind Who owes whom.
Friends male and female jealousy, and you will convince them that you and he's just a friend,
But your heart will have a trace of uncertainty.
Every person in this life, has a heart of official special friend, a very contradictory behavior.
At first you are not willing to just be friends, but for a long time, suddenly found so much better.
You better be concerned about him/her, than with you and things will break.
You prefer to make friends, not to be jealous of each other before they can really talk about anything.
This is especially true, you'll know that he/she will always care about you.
Male and female friends to do so, especially when a friend, what's wrong with that?
Your heart is a special friend ...? Who?

Many emotions, all because of wishful thinking,
Finally, even when it did not become friends, and frequently feel remorse,
Unfortunately, some have a very good friendship, but because the other side of one end like you,
If you do not respond, it seems difficult to maintain friendships happen,
No wonder that some people will refuse to take this step.

It's like a gamble because, after the confession was not a friend of men and women,
Or even when it did not become friends. There are several things you can not expect, and perhaps other hand do not care,
You can be friends, but not good either.
Unfortunately, but also regret!
But there may be other situations do not, you may never settle just friends .....

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If you're not the One...
Or....
If I'm not the one..

I'm starting to feel that there aren't any love stories
Just stories about love..

Ooh My God,,
I can't believed when I saw (again) the old sms which ever his send it to me and I cry..
March 10'th 2010
"Maaf kalau kamu menemukan banyak kekecewaan dari diri aku, mungkin aku engga sesempurna yang kamu harapkan. Tapi aku punya satu senjata, yaitu rasa sayang yang begitu besar yang engga ada di laki-laki manapun".

Hmm, what the hell.!! Im just stupid girl, whose always made a trouble.! Yeah Im a trouble maker.!!

Sorry If you are felt dissapointed (a lot) to me,,
I know you really hate me, for everything what I did for you.
I never ever wouldnt be your good girl what are you wanted.!

and...........
maybe you will be happy without me in your life..

Im so dissapointed with myself cos I cant to be a good girl for mylover,,

So sorry...
Now its all about up2u..
stay or move on..

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Please Believe

 Nothing is perfect

 Please believe people have weekness

and

then the beautiful in this world nothing is perfect too

everyone makes mistakes 

Admitting mistakes

and then

the most important change is

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Tiga yang menyebabkan perselingkuhan

TRIBUNNEWS.COM, JAKARTA - Pernikahan adalah momen membangun kehidupan baru bersama pasangan. Suka duka akan dihadapi berdua, sebisa mungkin tidak melibatkan pihak lain untuk menyelesaikan masalah. Namun, masalah rumah tangga kadang tidak sesederhana yang dihadapi ketika masih pacaran. Bukan cinta lagi yang dibutuhkan, tetapi komitmen, untuk menjaga keutuhan rumah tangga.

Menurut psikolog Prof Dr Sarlito Wirawan Sarwono, cinta bukanlah pengikat pernikahan. Cinta hanyalah faktor yang bisa menarik seseorang untuk memutuskan berpasangan.

“Cinta paling lama bertahan tiga tahun, lalu hilang. Sisanya adalah komitmen, kesetiaan, dan tanggung jawab,” ujar Prof Sarlito, saat peluncuran buku Mencegah Selingkuh dan Cerai karya sosiolog Dra Hartati Nurwijaya di Toko Buku Gramedia Matraman, Jakarta, Minggu (14/8/2011) lalu.

Salah satu penyebab retaknya rumah tangga menurut Prof Sarlito adalah perselingkuhan. Perselingkuhan itu sendiri biasanya disebabkan oleh beberapa faktor seperti: kemajuan teknologi, workaholic, dan sifat posesif.

Kemajuan teknologi
Teknologi bukan hal yang menjadi asal-usul perselingkuhan, namun bisa memicu perselingkuhan. Ketakutan bahwa kemajuan teknologi bisa membuat pasangan selingkuh, bisa membuat seseorang melanggar privasi pasangannya. Misalnya, membuka e-mail, SMS, atau situs jejaring sosial pasangan, bahkan minta password segala. Kebiasaan inilah yang menurut Prof Sarlito kerap memicu pertengkaran.

“Beri kepercayaan pada pasangan untuk punya wilayah privasinya sendiri. Kalau ternyata dia selingkuh, itu bisa diurus belakangan. Intinya jangan cari-cari masalah,” jelas Guru Besar Psikologi Universitas Indonesia yang mendalami Psikologi Sosial ini.

Bagaimanapun, teknologi akan mempermudah pekerjaan dan kehidupan seseorang. Jadi, pasangan pun berhak menikmatinya.

Workaholic
Bila salah satu atau kedua pihak terlalu asyik dengan pekerjaan masing-masing, perlahan-lahan bisa menghilangkan kesetiaan. Jika workaholic tidak diselingi dengan kencan berdua, misalnya, akan sulit bagi pasangan untuk bertahan. Hubungan pernikahan akan terasa hambar dan terasa sama saja dengan rutinitas hidup yang lain. Rasa hambar ini kelak akan berujung pada keinginan untuk mencari “selingan”. Siapa yang menjadi "selingan" tersebut? Kemungkinan besar adalah rekan kerja, partner bisnis, atau siapapun yang biasa Anda jumpai saat bekerja atau beraktivitas.

Sifat posesif
Orang yang selalu menginginkan pasangan berperilaku sesuai dengan keinginannya cenderung membuat pasangan menjadi bosan. Kehidupan rumah tangga pun menjadi kaku karena pasangan selalu merasa diawasi dan akhirnya merasa terkekang.

Contohnya masalah cemburu. Cemburu yang berlebihan bisa memberi penghakiman yang terlalu cepat kepada pasangan, padahal perselingkuhan belum tentu terjadi. Kemarahan yang tidak memiliki alasan kuat justru akan menambah keretakan hubungan. Karena sifat manusia cenderung selalu memilih yang lebih baik, jangan sampai ulah Anda yang pencemburu atau posesif mendorong pasangan mencari orang lain.

“Jangan bermimpi mengubah seseorang, tapi ubah dulu diri Anda, maka pasangan akan mengikuti,” tukasnya.

http://id.berita.yahoo.com/kenapa-perselingkuhan-terjadi-ini-penyebabnya-142920841.html

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Thousands and one apology..
I know I've been neglecting my blog.. but I'm really very busy.

Busy with work and life and trying to get everything right...

Is not easy to please everyone and esp with myself.. I just dont understand why sometimes.. infact most of the time I'm not happy with myself. WHY??????????????

Seriously I need to have more time for myself.. to blog, to read, watch my drama and do housework!!
and some reflections too.. Is now August 2011 .. time really flies.


I'm really need  to sleep my unhappiness away.. YES again...

Too many mood swing..

Chaos...

I'm exhausted!!!

Tired with everything in life...

I just want to be happy... Why is it so hard???

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I don't build a wall around myself to block those I love out, but to see who loves me enough to climb over it.

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Lost without you.. Mom's..

I know I can be a little stubborn sometimes
You might say a little righteous and too proud
I just want to find a way to compromise
Cos I believe that we can work things out

I thought I had all the answers never giving in
But baby since you've gone I admit that I was wrong

All I know is I'm lost without you I'm not gonna lie
How am I going to be strong without you I need you by my side
If we ever say we'll never be together and we ended with goodbye don't know what I'd do ...I'm
lost without you
I keep trying to find my way but all I know is I'm lost without you
I keep trying to face the day I'm lost without you

How am I ever gonna get rid of these blues
Baby I'm so lonely all the time
Everywhere I go I get so confused
You're the only thing that's on my mind

Oh my beds so cold at night and I miss you more each day
Only you can make it right no I'm not too proud to say

All I know is I'm lost without you I'm not gonna lie
How am I going to be strong without you I need you by my side
If we ever say we'll never be together and we ended with goodbye don't know what I'd do ...I'm
lost without you
I keep trying to find my way but all I know is I'm lost without you
I keep trying to face the day I'm lost without you

If I could only hold you now and make the pain just go away
Can't stop the tears from running down my face
Oh

All I know is I'm lost without you I'm not gonna lie
How am I going to be strong without you I need you by my side
If we ever say we'll never be together and we ended with goodbye don't know what I'd do ...I'm
lost without you
I keep trying to find my way but all I know is I'm lost without you
I keep trying to face the day I'm lost without you

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How to maintain healthy relationships

How many of us have allowed ourselves to be caught up in the whirlwind of a romance, only to be disappointed when the “honeymoon” period is over and reality sets in? Often, our partner is blamed for not putting in the effort to make the relationship work. In every relationship, be it intimate relations, friendship or kinship, it always takes a minimal of two people to work at it. A fact that everyone is aware of but rarely practices.
How then can we maintain strong, healthy and self-fulfilling relationships with a partner, parent or friend?

Communication – “Two monologues do not make a dialogue ~ Jeff Daly”
Deep, frequent, heart-to-heart conversations are essential in maintaining any relationship. Relationships fail when individuals hold the belief that: if he/she loves me, he/she should know what to do or what to say. I don’t have to tell him/her what I’m feeling or thinking.
We have to keep in mind that we are meant to interact, and are not mind readers. If you have difficulty communicating deep issues face-to-face, start off by sharing about your day and build up the confidence gradually by sharing issues closer to your heart. The person on the receiving end of your sharing will usually be appreciative of your trust and honesty.

Make time for each other
Set specific times during the week to do something both of you (or in a group setting) enjoy doing. Make it a point to celebrate special occasions and if finances permit, why not spend a weekend away from the stressors in life? Recognise that it is equally important to make time for your family.

Recalling the good times
Remember why you fell in love the first place. There are always wonderful memories etched in our brains. Reminisce on the fun times you had together with your friends and children. Tapping on such memories will also allow you to be more appreciative of one another.

Do something nice for your loved one
Know your partner’s, friends’ and family’s love language and do something they can appreciate. Love languages are expressed by – buying gifts, words of affirmation, acts of service, physical touch, and quality time. Understand how your partner showers you with affection and allow your partner to understand how you shower him/her with affection.

Appreciate the present
It’s too late for regrets when a love one passes on. There’s no point in grieving when the person has passed on or has decided to be out of your life. Learn to appreciate the present. Life is too short to dwell on the insignificant.

Celebrate and Enjoy
Celebrate the relationships you have made and maintained over the years. Enjoy the fruit of each journey you walked with that individual. Thank the person for being your partner, friend or family. Be grateful that they are still by you this day.

ByMs Yang Su-Yin

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Quiet Side Of The Room

I Felt bored on my work..
and I decided to saw my blog
and then..


This place looks a little dead . So I though I'll drop by this Afternoon to do this freaking short post .


How short ?



This short .



Be back later :)

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From where I'm Standing

My internet has showed favouritism to Blogger and a little bit to Facebook . Because these are the only two sites that I'm able to connect to . I can't bloody check my yahoo mail . Actually , these are probably the only three sites I frequent . That's makes two out of three , so it's pretty good already . But Facebook is loading so freaking slowly , so I'm gonna make that one out of three . I'm putting the blame on my broadband . Or maybe it's my computer . Urgh , either way , I'm pissed .

In the world today , it's impossible to live without the internet . You just can't do without it . It's the highest distraction for me . It's the reason why I'm always late . I just can't seem to get out of my chair and my fingers can't leave the keyboard . Almost all the answers to my questions can be answered through Internet . So if it's down , my mood becomes the same way .

Since I'm stuck with Blogger , I may as well put it to good use and create a new post . Besides I do have some stuff that I would like to get off my chest .

In life , everyone is constantly told to be themselves . After all , it is better to be disliked for being who you are than to be loved for who you are not . But yet , is it really possible to still be yourself with the never-ending comparison that others put you through ? Can you live your entire life ignoring it and not get affected , then continue to again , be yourself ?

We are all human . We have feelings . And I'm sure no one can walk away from a comparison without feeling anything . Maybe there are a minority , I wouldn't know . One thing's for sure , I'll be affected . Or you can say , I am affected .

Books that tell me to again , be myself , also tell me I should act a certain way to not let others hurt me . But what if I don't wanna be that way , it isn't my style , it isn't me ? So is it to say that if I don't do or say certain things , I'm bound to be hurt for sure ?

Things is , at the end of the day , people are always trying to live up to someone else's expectations . Because that someone else said or did something to make them feel that they are not good enough . But really , who is good enough ?

I can use a certain brand of perfume , wear my hair in a certain style , put on certain type of clothes . Just to impress someone . But would him or her be impressed ? They will still manage to pin point some teeny weeny thing and say they don't like it . Then after all the shit you put yourself through , he or she is gonna turn around and say , "Just be yourself ."

I was myself before everything started . But no one seemed to give a shit . I put on make-up because people said I wasn't good looking enough  . I've done a million things because PEOPLE said something . And now , I'm clueless as to who I am .

You can say that whatever you do is solely for yourself and not others , you know deep down , you are . You can deny , but when you walk out the door and face the world , you know you'll definitely be judged and you will look , talk and act in way to let people think that this is who you are .

As much as I detest changing anything about myself , I know I will . Because we all want to be liked . We just want to be accepted .

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Trust

How much do you trust the people around you .
A lot , a little or not at all ? I used to trust everybody I meet .
I didn't think judging a person and understanding someone was necessary .
Why would a person would want to waste time betraying someone else ?
Imagine a person lying on his bed , before going to sleep , looks up his/her ceiling and starts thinking different ridiculous plans to make someone else's life miserable . Stupid isn't it ?



I've been called naive more than a hundred times in my life .
Usually the conversation would end asking me to grow up . 
I'm 21 . Yes , I know not to follow a stranger who offers me candy or not to enter a lift alone with a stanger .
And yes , I know it's dangerous to meet someone you know online and stuff .
Maybe I'm simple minded , maybe I wouldn't meet a double-crossing person .
And maybe , I was wrong . Actually , I am wrong .



I've been cheated , back-stabbed , deceived , let down , etc ... 
Who hasn't ? The stupid part , is when I go out and start trusting again .
 Those people didn't ruined my life . Maybe they ruined a week or two .
 Or perhaps my secondary school life .
Nevertheless , I survived . I consider myself lucky .
I could've been so affected that I decided to take my own life .
But what if someone told a lie about you , to someone who is important , what if that important someone is , I don't know , say your boss ?
What could happened , or what will happened ?



You learn a new lesson everyday . And today I learnt , sadly , nobody can be trusted .






(Just in case you're worried) Nothing happend to me .

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